આજે વાત કરવી છે લગ્નની પરંપરાની.
Today we are talking about the tradition of marriage. There
is no other religion in the world which has the same method of marriage as the
Indian Sanatan Hinduism. From writing Kankotri to the farewell of the daughter
and the arrival of Grihalakshmi at home, all the traditions of marriage are
very ironic and connected with the roots of the life of the newlyweds.
The tradition and manner of marriage that is portrayed in
Indian Santana Hinduism is truly wonderful. In the Treta Yuga, Lord Rama and in
the Dwapar Yuga, the marriage of Lord Krishna was performed with the same
tradition and chanting of mantras. From the birth of man to his death he is
given sixteen sacraments. And one of these sixteen sacraments is the sacrament
of marriage.
Marriage is not just a bond but a promise to support one
another from birth to death. Marriage is the union of two souls, not just two
persons. People have also changed their minds over time so some people believe
that marriage binds a man. But the fact is that marriage does not bind a man,
but unites him. The spouse who comes to accompany him in his life after
marriage is not only his wife, but Lakshmi is the housewife of his house.
After our marriage there, Lakshmi who enters the house as the
wife of the son is called Putravadhu. A son is more important than a son who is
more important than his own son.
We look at the various rituals that take place on the
occasion of marriage but it is also important to know what they all mean. When
the bridegroom comes to get married, he is greeted. What is the purpose of this
time? What's the secret? What do other rituals mean? Let's take a look at all
these things.
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Marriage: Marriage is the union of two persons. Basically the purpose
of marriage is to make two different people synonymous with each other.
Marriage is a long-term commitment by two people to support each other from
birth to death.
1. Horse: Horse is the first step in warning
the horse of the senses.
2. Ponkhnu: When the bridegroom comes to the
bride's courtyard to get married, the groom is ponkhun by the bride's mother.
The thing that the bride's mother wipes the groom with is called wiping. The
ponkhana has 4 wooden sticks called ravio, mushal, ghunsari and tarak. Let's
take a look at its importance.
v Ravio: Just like curd is extracted with
attitude to extract butter, the attitude of conveying the message of love by
churning the waves of the mind to make life loving is also conveyed by attitude.
v Mushal: Mushal is said to arouse the lusts of
Mushal, that is to say, to express love with sugar from Sambela.
v Ghunsari: Husband and wife are the two drivers
of the chariot of the world. If these two drivers walk in parallel in the chile
of modesty and restraint and pull the chariot of life with cooperation and
love, then their marriage life will be happy.
v Tarak: Married life is like rentia. The two
chakras of husband and wife are bound by the rope of love and only if they keep
this taraq tied and moving, the value of saying that affectionate thread will
come out is given by tarak. In this way, the mother-in-law, who has come to
visit Jamairaja, warns the groom before coming to Myra, and the groom breaks
the envelope and gives the answer.
1. Samput: After the bridegroom's mother wipes
the groom, the groom breaks the two Kodia samput under his feet and enters
Myra. By this the groom wants to say that I have understood your warning but I
will not continue on my lonely hope, desire and aspirations. Should travel.
2. Varmala: Varakanya welcomes Aras Parsa with a
garland of flowers but Gorbapa wears a string of Sutra around their necks.
Thus, it is an attempt to unite both the Haiyas with a single defeat.
3. Handshake: Handshake is the main part of the
wedding ceremony. The parents hand over their daughter's hand to the groom and
the groom accepts it. This ritual is also called Panigran ritual and the
handshake becomes not just a handshake but a haiyamelap. This ritual awakens
the tingling in the body of the bridegroom and the intimacy towards each other
shines in the haiya of both. At the same time, the minds of Janaiya and Mandvia
have also danced with joy and happiness.
4. Mars Fera: The sages have given a very
important message through the four feras of marriage. The four rounds of
marriage are the rounds of Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha. In three of the four
rounds of marriage, the man is in the lead and in the fourth round, the bride
is in the lead. Let us also understand the greatness of these four rounds
5. First round of religion: The first round of the four rounds of
marriage is of religion. No matter what religion is practiced in the woman's
pier, but after marriage the wife follows the same religion as the husband.
Apart from this, religions towards husbands, religions towards family,
religions towards elders of the house, religions towards children, religions
towards relatives and society also follow the wife with her husband's obedience
and desire.
6. Second round meaning: meaning money. The husband's job is
to earn money, that is, to support his family and his family by earning money.
That is why the husband is ahead in the second and second round of meaning.
7. Third round of lust: Woman is a symbol of shame and women
always stay behind the husband for married life and procreation.
8. Fourth round of salvation: In the fourth and final round, the
sages have put the woman first. Woman is a symbol of Lakshmi and Shakti. In
earlier times it was said that a woman would fight with Yamaraja at the same
time to save her husband's life. And that is probably why the sages in the
tradition of the four rounds of marriage put the woman first in the fourth and
final round of salvation because even the sages would know that salvation can
only be given by the arrogance of this country. Not at all. For that also
proper karma has to be done. Moksha is achieved only by following the rules of
Dharma, and service-worship and devotion to God and women are always in the
forefront. Endurance, virtue, modesty etc. are natural qualities in women.
Respect for husband, mother-in-law, father-in-law, and elders, service-sympathy,
compassion for the poor, love and affection for children. The sages in Fera
have always put the woman first.
